Email #15: Forgiveness
This email part of a series of practical advice on how to deal with the stress of being arrested. This is not specifically related to your case.
"The first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness liberates the victim. It is a gift you give yourself." - TD Jakes
I want to talk about forgiveness because the experience of dealing with a criminal case is a great time to re-evaluate our feelings towards others. Do you have any "enemies"? Or people that you feel ill-will towards? Maybe it is time to forgive them? Because here is the secret...
"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." - Lewis B Smedes
And please to forgive the prisoner metaphor. :-) But anger really is a hot coal that you hold in our hand with the plan to throw it at someone else. It hurts you much more than them.
Check out this wonderful podcast about forgiveness by Tony Robbins.
You should always be looking for something good that comes from this arrest. Couldn't forgiving someone be that thing? And how will you know if it is working?
"You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well." - Lewis B Smedes
I hope this will be valuable for you. As always, if you have any questions about your case, please call or email us!